Are you struggling to make it through your miscarriage.
Here are some tips and encouragement from someone else who has been in the trenches.
I know how hard having a miscarriage is because Ive been through it.
3 times as of the moment Im writing this!
But instead I am reminded of the loss.I hope this encourages you to know that you are not alone.
You are not alone.
Allow yourself to Grieve
You lost a baby.
You may not have gotten to hold her, name her, or even hear her heart beat.
But you lost a baby nonetheless.
Its okay to be sad.
So cry, reflect, cancel some things on your calendar andtake time to be sad.
Its a healthy, normal part of grief!
I tended to need to cuddle with my husband and watch comedy sitcoms.
I let the housework slide and ddidntdo as many out-of-the-house activities with the kids.
Just remember,there is no magic formula on how to grieve.
Do what feels natural to you.
just double-check your progress is being monitored by a doctor.
Perhaps there is an underlying reason for the miscarriage you dont want to miss.
Always better safe than sorry.
Ill warn you now,not everyone you talk to is going to know what to say.
Often times they say some pretty dumb things that can hurt.
So consider carefully who you talk to.
I suggest maybe mentioning something casually and see how they respond.
Often times that will give you a good indication of how understanding and supportive they will be.
Think About the Future
I am a planner.
We may not be able to control when we get pregnant, loose a pregnancy, or illness.
But there are some things it’s possible for you to plan for.
When you have grieved, start thinking about the future.
Remember that physicians estimate that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in a miscarriage.
So your chances of conceiving and carrying to term are strong.Stay positive!
Do what you’ve got the option to to help make the next pregnancy a success.
Because chances are, that desire for a child has not subsided.
Focusing on today will help you make it through to tomorrow.
So enjoy your other precious childrens smiles.
Enjoy a decadent piece of chocolate cake.
Try something youve never done before.
Enjoy an evening stroll walking hand-in-hand with your husband.
Find joy in today because today is a gift.
Hugs to all you Ladies in the Trenches!
